Some days I find myself in a total state of wonder, some might call it exasperation with either a family matter, an encounter with someone in the service industry or a work related incident, etc. Over recent times I have been conscious that my response to one of these “wonders” should be considered carefully because “my actions/response will carry a consequence“. Have you been there…..or are you there now?
Comparisons and evaluations of my actions have been convicting and good lessons to be learned for me for the “next time”! I like to think that I don’t spend alot of time in the wonder of “what if’s” of life. But, I do find it to be a good exercise in refining my decision making processes to play out – either on paper but, more often in my head (about 2-4 am) – when I should be counting sheep! LOL
For the sake of making my point, I will use these examples…if I cross a busy street and not look both ways, the consequence can be that I get hit by a vehicle and get seriously injured or lose my life. Or, “if” I eat a bag of my favorite cookies, Vienna Fingers, the consequences ARE or could be getting very sick, spoiling my dinner or watch the scales rise another 10 pounds!!! And, one many have heard as children and we have “gladly” imparted to our children…”if” you study and not procrastinate, the result will be good grades that will pave the way for future successes in life.
Recently, a most special 5-year old young man, imparted some insight to actions and consequences – when he is bossy or mean to his friends at school and want them to play what he wants, they don’t like it and chose to not play with him or “be his friend”. Childish (immature) behavior we all have seen and know. However, he did share with me he learned he needed to be nice so friends will include him in playground time. Yes indeed, he learned the basics- his behavior caused him a “not so happy” consequence.
It has become very clear to me over this past week, in our country there are people who either do not understand or deliberately have chosen poor actions, “to express themselves” with little to no regard of the consequences. Often, consequences can result in injury, damage to property, disruptions and typically there is nothing positive to come from those type of actions. I have continued to observe and remembered “when” similar actions were chosen in an attempt to make a point or stand for a particular “issue”. The consequence can be positive and successful and make a contribution by being a part of a needed change or bring further attention to a issue or circumstance.
There is so much going on around us, I think it could be so much more effective if “we”would pause and reflect on what and how our actions will have a consequence or consequences. So, as I share again from my “wise” 5 year old – Sharing is caring – as he gently reached for a chip off my plate – no consequences, he was polite!
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